Scripture for Friday, February 28,2025
Sirach 6:5-17, Psalm 119: 12, 16, 18, 27, 34-35, Mark 10:1–12
When I first read today’s gospel I thought I should recuse myself since like many people today I am divorced and remarried. However, I decided that’s exactly why I should tackle this reading from Mark because it’s important to me personally.
I think today’s readings, as a group, provide a wonderful toolkit for talking about the definitive response Jesus gives the Pharisees when they question him on divorce. Jesus plainly says, twice, God didn’t make us for divorce. He says the law of Moses that allowed for divorce was simply there because Moses recognized that people are hard hearted and gave them a legal alternative. Jesus says however that is not God’s plan. I would point out he is taking this issue beyond the legalistic approach the Pharisees are asking about. This is where Jesus usually goes, way beyond the rules people have set up to the ground of our relationships, to what God intends.
So now consider the selection of verses from Sirach, one of the Wisdom books in the Old Testament. This author is talking about how tricky it is to find a good friend. That person needs to be tested and too often friends are superficial and when tough times happen they desert you. In this discussion it sounds to me like great dating advice. Who should you look for? The essence here is someone who shares your values. But it’s tough to find that person. Sirach estimates that a best friend is one in a thousand. How much rarer is a spouse?
Where I’m going with this is the reality of the human condition. Just as Jesus recognized that Moses gave the Jews a legal escape because they could be hard hearted, I would suggest we have to recognize our own failings. We mess up even when we’re trying really hard. In this case, as in other circumstances, we need to be humble and admit we make mistakes, real ones, that have bad consequences for us and for others. Which is where the Psalm for today comes in. It starts with, “teach me your statutes,” and asks that God, “open my eyes … make me understand … give me discernment, that I my observe your law and keep it with all my heart.” We need accept what Jesus says is God’s plan for us and ask for the help we need to live up to that. That way when, “a man … be jointed to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh,” will be a reality.
It’s very apparent that we often don’t meet this standard. But the heart of the matter is not down playing what Jesus says but rather admitting we made a mistake, remaining humble, taking responsibility and learning to live our lives better. Then by paying attention to our heart and what we have experienced we can also recognize God’s mercy and live in God’s love.